4. PEOPLE SAY THAT “YOU ARE A PRIORITY” BUT, THEY LIE
Well, I bet that someone at some point of your life promised you that you will be their priority and now you even hesitate to start a conversation with that person.This is the most common among all the false promises.
Why? what is the reason behind that they didn’t keep their promise?
so, here is the answer;
actually, they didn’t even know that they were lying when they made that promise because it’s impossible to choose the same thing over others in every situation.
If you practically and logically think, every situation demands a different actions or response so, how is it possible for them to put you in the first place in every situation as you are not an answer to all the questions or you are not the solution to all the problems, even we can’t put the same person in each situation.
So, when someone says it to you, just explain this to them and don’t expect them to set you as a priority in each and every case, then it will be easy for you to handle things.
5. PEOPLE SAY THAT THEY WILL NOT HIDE ANYTHING BUT, THEY DO
It is a very popular reason due to which even the strongest bond becomes weak and usually ends up in a disastrous manner.
People promise that they will never hide anything but they do.
so, here is the answer:
there are 3 types of persons-
i) The one who tells us everything no matter it is related to us or not, they will share even little things with us – when these people hide something that means something major took place in that person’s life which has affected them to a major extent, so you should not ask them at that point, you should help them to recover at that point, and after some time if they are comfortable, then you should ask, they will tell you if they have overcome that problem
ii) The one who shares only relevant things which are related to the person or us– you should not be surprised if they have not shared anything which was not related to either you or that person, as it’s their normal behaviour, but if they hide something that could affect you, then you must ask them at that point, because if you ignored it at that point, then it will become their habit, but you should ask them calmly and patiently, don’t create a fight.
iii) The one who faces a problem of alexithymia( inability to express his/her feelings)– if they hide something it’s not their fault, as they are unable to express, the best way to ask them is via texting as usually, these kind of people are bad at vocal in case of their feelings, even if they hide the same thing on texts too, that means either they are not comfortable or they think you won’t understand, so you should help them and ask later.
6. PEOPLE SAY THAT THEY UNDERSTAND YOU COMPLETELY, BUT THEY DON’T
Well, I know almost every one of us has heard this one, even an unknown person has the dare to say that they understand what it feels like!False promises have become too easy to make.
But my friend, if you think, someone understands you completely so I know it would be hurtful but no one can understand you completely.
As every person has the different reaction to the same situation similarly, each and every person has different feelings towards the same situation.
No one can understand your situation, whether its good or bad, no one can feel the same joy or pain as you feel.Even your closest one is not going to understand your actions, all they will do is judge.
So, don’t expect from someone to understand you completely as it is not possible.