Almost everyone of us have faced such a phase in our lives in which we think “Why i am not growing despite of that much hard work?”, “Why i am not getting success?”.
We all have phased such kind of phase in our lives, and here the word “success” doesn’t defines only your career but it defines your relationships,personal development,personal life too, because it is possible that maybe you are getting success in terms of money,but you are unable to handle your any kind of relationships and that’s why your personal life is getting ruined.
So, let’s discuss all those points that can help us to know why we weren’t growing?
1. EGO PROBLEM
EGO is something that means “Eliminating Growing Opportunities” which usually occurs when someone tells us something which is contradictory to our perspectives,it happens in various situations even if i talk about relationship or any career related issues,our EGO comes between the delivery and interpretation of the given message.
Our ego usually comes out when we listen to a person who is of our same age,why it happens?
Because our mind resists us to accept the fact that the person in front knows more than us if he is of our same age,and that’s why we are unable to get the real meaning of the message that is given by anyone.
Same thing happens in any kind of relationship,everyone wants to be listened but no one wants to listen,this is our problem.
So,the first step is to listen,no matter whether a kid or an old person is giving you a message,just listen.
2. LACK OF LEARNING ATTITUDE
Secondly,the problem is correlated to our ego problem, we are ready to give advise to everyone but we are not ready to learn,due to our ego.
Our society has made our mindset that we can learn only from the persons who are ahead of us and because of this mindset we are not ready to learn something from a person who is not ahead of us,but this is also a misconception of us,we are ahead of that underestimated person in our mind only,but reality is different.
Well, i think that we can learn a lot even from a person who has achieved nothing in his life, we can learn that despite of all those failures,that person has courage to keep trying,he is not quitting or acting like a coward!
See,we have learnt the greatest lesson from a person who is nothing but just a failure for society!
So, step 2 is to keep learning, whether its your partner,its your colleague,your competitor,your enemy,your friend,a stranger or even from yourself,because “Our best teacher is our last mistake”!
So,keep learning from everyone,keep analyzing and never judge anyone!
3. ATTACHMENT TO COMFORT ZONE
Now,here’s one of the main points,our attachment to the comfort zone is extended to that extent at which we can compromise our life for staying in that comfort zone.
Anyone can work within a comfort zone,but not everyone can get success within that zone.
Same as in relationships,anyone can do normal things for other person so,comfort zone also exists in relationships also.
Here’s the reason,why we are so much attached to the comfort zone?
Our mind is designed in such a way that it wants us to feel comfort,that’s why whenever we hear or do things that discomforts us,then our mind tries to avoid it as much as possible,our mind resists us to go for a risk as it will harm that comfort.Thus,this is the reason for our attachment to comfort zone.
That’s why people say “Control your mind to become successful”!
So,step 3 is controlling your mind and getting out of the comfort zone!