1. Depression is not a choice
Depression is one of the most helpless and frustrating experiences a person can have. It’s sometimes feeling sad, sometimes feeling empty, and sometimes feeling absolutely nothing at all. There are times when depression can leave someone feeling paralyzed in their own mind and body, unable to do the things they used to love to do or the things they know they should be doing. Depression is not just a bad day or a bad mood and it’s not something someone can just “get over.” Remember no one chooses to be depressed.
In an attempt to make our loved ones feel better, we often go that extra mile and alter our routines and life to help them heal faster. We try to draw their attention away from their state of mind and do everything that it takes to help them feel better, but such attempts are usually met with remorse from their end. They aren’t able to reciprocate and adapt to us and that leaves us feeling empty. We start believing that their depression is mirroring our relationship with them, but that is untrue. Don’t blame yourself and never push intimacy, let them know you are there for them, that’s all.
3. They Are Pulled Down By Life But Not ‘Broken’
Depression makes one feel unwanted, and miserable at times. We assume that people need to be left alone, and that time will heal them, but what we forget is that they are already disillusioned and stuck with something which they didn’t ask for in the first place. Depression is not a ‘choice’, and the fact that someone is merely trying to deal with it requires major appreciation. You need to consciously schedule time together and make them realise that with time and affection, depression will ward off soon.